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Be
a Good Help Meet (this is for wives)
January 7, 2009
If
you are like me, then at some point in your life, you wondered
what your purpose was. A couple of years ago, I prayed that God
would show me what mine was. Of course I was a wife and mother,
but that couldn't be it, could it? God was faithful, and led me to
a book called "Created to be His Help Meet," by Debi
Pearl. Through reading this, and studying God's word, I finally
found what I had been looking for...
Genesis
2:18
“And the Lord God said, It is
not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a help meet
for him.”
I
was created to be a helper to my husband. Period. I can only find
fulfillment as a woman in serving and reverencing my husband. God
has a divine order: God, Christ, Husband, Wife. I learned that I
had to stop trying to change him, because that was God's job. I
needed to know my place, and honor God by honoring my husband. The
following verse helped me understand how to do that:
Titus 2:3-5 “The
aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh
holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of
good things; That they may teach the young women to
be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste,
keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that
the word of God be not blasphemed.”
The
following are some pointers that I have learned under each
mandate:
1.
To be sober: I've learned to adapt to my husband's working
and eating schedule. It's important for me to try to have a good
home-cooked meal ready. I have to think and plan ahead. Learn to
use the crockpot - what a wonderful invention! Throw some chicken
in, some broth, some potatoes and onions, add some
seasoning...yum, yum. Vary it up a bit and you can come up with
some great, low stress dinners for the whole fam!
Clear away the clutter from the main part of the house before he
arrives. He wants to come home to a quiet haven of rest. Encourage
the kids to be quiet. Look nice for him and greet him with a warm
smile and embrace. Don't greet him with complaints or the stresses
of your day.
2.
Love their husbands: Wives, sex is not about you! In
honoring your husband, you will keep him on empty! Don't expect
your husband to be faithful to you just because he should. You
have to earn it. Get creative in your "fun" time. Take
the initiative. Try to please him. If you send your poor husband
out into this world on full all the time, he WILL be tempted. Men
are visual. Think of all the billboards, magazine covers,
commercials, etc. that will try to tempt your husband. You can't
even go for a stroll in the mall without seeing Victoria Secret
models 10 feet tall letting it all hang out. And what about that
cute secretary, or those women that walk around leaving nothing to
the imagination. He needs to be on empty so he at least has a
chance! As for me, I've learned that I need to try and look good
for my husband. I used to never wear makeup at home, didn't do my
hair, wore baggy, 'comfortable' clothes. The only time I looked
good was when we went out. My husband would always say, "why
do you look good when we go out and you don't even try when you're
at home?" I would use the famous excuse,"Honey, I want
to look good for you, so that you'll be proud to have a good
looking wife on your arm." HA! How pathetic. I truly thought
he should think I've attractive no matter what I looked like at
home. Now I know better. I now know that I need to try at home,
and look nice/modest when we go out. Ask your husband what your
best feature is and play to that. Maybe he likes tighter pants, or
those cute undies. Or maybe he likes your hair a certain way. Be
his help meet and fulfill his desires!
3.
Love their children: It's important to train our children
to be all that they can be. I believe in homeschooling. You
can read more about that here.
But I also highly recommend reading
the book, "To Train Up a Child" by Michael and Debi
Pearl. This book revolutionized the way we view child
training.
Proverbs 22:6 “Train up a
child in the way that he should go; and when he is old, he will
not depart from it.”
Proverbs 29:15 “the rod and reproof give wisdom; but a child
left to himself bringeth his mother to shame.”
4.
Be discreet: Always seek to be polite and honest. When your
husband makes a decision, don't question it. He needs to know that
you support him, whether he's right or wrong. (unless of course
he's doing something illegal).
5.
Chaste: I want to be a virtuous woman. I Make sure what I
wear would please the Lord. I don't go out in public with
cleavage hanging out or my midrift showing.
Mathew
5:28
“But I say unto you, that whosoever looketh on a woman to lust
after her hath committed adultery with her already in his
heart.”
It
is SIN to knowingly cause someone to lust after you. Check your
heart.
6.
Keepers at home: I am my child's earthbound guardian angel.
It is my job to keep my children safe. I've learned many things
about diet, natural healing, safe cleaning products, natural body
products (soap, shampoo, toothpaste, etc). I've learned about the
dangers of vaccines and the dangers of non-organic meet products
and dairy. Let me share with you a few things I've learned:
*Raw milk is much healthier that pasteurized, homogenized
milk. Read more about it here.
*We budget for only organic beef, chicken, and dairy
products because of the steroids, hormones, and antibiotics found
in non-organic kinds.
*Most cleaning products have toxins and chemicals in them.
Go for all-natural, non-toxic, perfume free products.
*I've thrown out all toiletry/body products that contain propylene
glycol and sodium
lauryl/laureth sulfate. I've
replaced them with all natural, preferably organic products that
do not have these ingredients.
*I've learned how to use essential oils and homeopathy.
These are safe and natural ways to heal common ailments instead of
using prescription or non-prescription drugs.
*Stay away from vaccinations! They are not proven affective
and have been linked to autism. It is not worth it. They are a
money making scheme by large drug companies that don't care about
your health or your child's health. They are more concerned about
making money. Read more here.
I'm
constantly learning new ways to better take care of my family. Do
research and strive to be a better help meet by keeping your home
safe and healthy. Keep on hand informational books to help you
grow as a person.
7.
Good: Proverbs
12:4 “A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband: but she that
maketh ashamed is as rottenness in his bones.”
I've learned that what I say or do will
ultimately be a curse or a blessing to my husband. Instead of
nagging him to do something, I do it myself, with a heart of
gratitude. I take the trash out, fix things if I can, make the
bed, do the cleaning, pick his clothes up off the floor, prepare
meals and do the dishes, wake up early before the children to
prepare my mind for the day. It is my job to be hardworking, kind,
ready, and selfless. Our marriage has grown in leaps and bounds
since I have stopped expected him to do 'his fair share' around
the house. He has enough to worry about at work. Now that I've had
a change of heart, I gladly do things to take any addition burden
off of him. I've stopped getting offended easily. That's just a
waste of time. I've stopped talking bad about him to my mom or my
friends. I only think good about him, thus only speak good about
him. Far cry from the way it used to be. But I don't want things
to be the way they used to be. Our marriage was miserable. Now it
is joyous!
8.
Be obedient to their own husbands: Take time to read and
pray over these scripture passages:
1
Cor. 11:3 “But I would have you know, that the head of every man
is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of
Christ is God.
Eph
5:22-24 “Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as
unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as
Christ is the head of the church: and he is the savior of the
body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the
wives be to their own husbands in everything.
Eph
5:33-“Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love
his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her
husband.”
Col
3:18
– “Wives submit yourselves
unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord.”
1
Peter 3:1- “Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own
husbands; that if any obey not the word, they also may without the
word be won by the conversation of the wives.”
To
summarize, we women have lost our way over the last 50 or so
years. Since the feminist movement, we have demanded our rights in
everything. We want to be equal to men. But hear me out. God
didn't create us equal to men. We have very different roles. I am
the nurturer, the keeper of the home, the helper to my husband. My
husband is the provider, the authority in our home. If I try to
take over his role, I will be miserable. If I fulfill my role to
the best of my ability, I will be honoring God and my husband will
be able to flourish. God knew what he was doing when he created
us. I simply have to trust him, will you?
Homeschooling
January 7, 2009
I
know lots of families that homeschool and I know lots of families
that don't. We have decided that in order for us to raise children
who walk in the ways of the Lord, we have to homeschool. It is my
responsibility as a mother to nurture and train my children to
have good morals, respect for others, and belief in Christ our
Savior. It's my opinion that they won't get that at public
schools. Yes, they will learn their ABC's and their 123's, and
maybe even a little reading and writing. But you know what? I can
teach them that. You don't have to have a college degree to teach
your children the essentials of life.
Think about what it is you really want your children to know. Who
did God put in your child's life to train and mold them? YOU!! Not
grandma, not the babysitter, not the daycare worker, not the
school teacher, not the 29 other children in your child's
classroom. You.
My girls, 4 and 2, follow me around all day, learning how to cook,
clean, do laundry, etc, etc. My 4 year old knows all of her
letters and sounds, not because I formally taught her, but because
she is picking it up through all the reading and talking we do.
I've heard all the arguments. "I send my kids to public
school so they can be a good witness." That's probably the
saddest one yet. Children do not have the spiritual
fortitude or knowledge to be able to stand against the majority!!
Not at that tender age!! They will have plenty of time to minister
to the lost and dying world when they are adults. It's when they
are children that they need to be nurtured and learn from their
parents the ways of the Lord. I can't expect my child to get 8
hours of the world everyday, then come home to 4 hours of me maybe
professing godliness, and expect them to walk in good judgment and
holiness.
The other sad argument I've heard is, "Oh, my kids just love
school. If I took them out I'd be doing it for me, not them. I
don't want to be selfish." WHAT!! It's only because we truly
love them that we will take them out of that world-loving, sin
laden, Satan's playground. "Oh, but they have so many
friends! I want them to develop socially." When did
God's word say that we needed lots of friends in order to inherit
the kingdom of heaven anyway? What is our focus?
"But I'm not competent enough to teach my kids? I didn't go
to college." Hmmmm, somehow we manage to function in society,
right? We must have a little bit of knowledge in us. I don't think
that's the real issue. It's easy to be pressured by society to
send our kids to school so we're not looked upon as "the
weird homeschoolers." You might be scared that your life will
not be your own. You may even be afraid that your kids will resent
you for not letting them "be like everybody else." You
know what? God's word says we will NOT be like everybody else. If
we are truly saved and we send our children to public school, we
can not pray for God's supernatural intervention to protect the
minds of our children. God already provided that through us!! I'm
speaking to moms here. Moms, if you have felt the tug to even
consider home schooling, do the research. You don't need thousands
of dollars of curriculum. Life is our school. Check out the link:
www.homeschooltoday.com
and email me. I would
be more than willing to discuss any questions you might have.
Milk
anyone?
January 6, 2009
What's really in your dairy products? Do you think it's important
to know, or are you just hoping that whoever produces it has your
best interests in mind? Are you truly concerned about the health
of your family? I think by now all of us have heard that cows are
pumped with steroids, growth hormones, and antibiotics. Does that
alarm you? If that doesn't, then maybe I should tell you that
pasteurization and homogenization effectively kill anything good
that might be in milk, causing it to be a dead, nasty liquid that
causes lactose intolerance and allergies, to name a few. So here,
have a glass of white, dead liquid that has hormones, steroids,
and antibiotics in it that will constipate you and give some a
runny nose. But wait, if you drink it every day for 20 years, then
maybe if you're lucky, you'll get cancer. Am I being too harsh?
Hmmmm, judge for yourself. I found this article online I thought
you should read:
http://www.enzymeuniversity.com/artman/publish/article_20.shtml
And
please go to this website. Remember, you must educate yourself!
Don't just blindly do what everybody else is doing!!
http://www.realmilk.com/why.html
"Then what should we do?" you ask. Find a local farmer
that sells raw milk shares, goat or cow. And then enjoy their
delicious, natural, healthy, creamy milk that God intended.
Remember though, it's not just milk, it's cheese, yogurt, and
cottage cheese as well. Before I made my own yogurt, I bought
organic. I still buy organic cottage cheese and raw, organic
cheese. It's worth the extra money. We make it a priority.
Vaccines
Tuesday, January 6, 2009
Vaccines.
Ah, the words we love to hate. They can't be all that bad, right.
I need to tell you my story, in hopes that you will become
informed and do what's right for your children. When Avery was 2
months old, she received a round of shots. At least 3 different
kinds. All I remember is that one of them was the DTP. That
evening she had what I thought were seizures. I rushed her to the
emergency room where they did all sorts of tests, but couldn't
find anything. I knew in my heart it was because of the vaccines.
From that point on I began to do research on the pros and cons of
vaccines, and what I found was astonishing. Let me inform you
about what I learned:
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Studies
show that about half of childhood diseases occur in children
who have been vaccinated.
Studies are not done to prove the safety of combination
shots.
The ingredients in vaccines are toxic.
Vaccines have been linked to autism.
Vaccines are huge money makers for drug companies. So the
more the merrier.
You CAN SAY NO to all vaccines, even if your children attend
school. Just fill out a simple form. Don't let the doctors
bully you!!
If you have a bad feeling at all about a vaccine, don't do
it!! |
My
story continues....I had a doctor's appointment scheduled for
Avery's one year checkup. Another round of vaccines. The day
before the appointment, I couldn't shake this terrible feeling
about what the shots would do to her. Finally I called and
canceled. She has not had another shot. My husband and I were
looking online at the causes of autism a few months ago and we
read story after story about parents who had a healthy, loving,
smiling child before their vaccines, and then after, they were
different. Never to be the same again. Can you imagine the guilt?
Allowing the vaccine to be given to your child that ultimately
fried their brain? I knew in my heart that if I had taken Avery to
the doctor for more shots that day, that my lovely, sweet,
beautiful angel would have been changed. I won't know for sure
until I get to heaven, but I followed my heart that day and I will
never regret it.
My 6 month old, Andrew, has not had any vaccines, nor will he. It
is not worth the risk. My children have been placed in my care by
God and I know that this is the right thing to do. I will not be
bullied or do it just because everyone else is doing it. I did my
research, and I've made my choice. I pray that you will do the
same. Do a google search of vaccine dangers, or autism, and you
will be horrified. Here's some links:
http://educate-yourself.org/vcd/
http://www.know-vaccines.org/parent.html
http://www.generationrescue.org/index.html
Been
awhile...
Tuesday, December 9 Ok,
so it's been awhile since I've written...I find it hard to get
away from my wife/motherly duties to write something worth
reading. Especially since I'm still napping when the kids
nap! Hay, I need my relaxation time right? I suppose my biggest
challenge lately has been child training/discipline. If I'm
not careful, I let my impatience and high expectations get the
best of me. I need to stay focused and diligent in seeking
peace from the Lord. When the kids aren't listening, or if
they're being especially whiney...I need to put a smile on my
face, take a deep breath, and train...again. Anger doesn't
help the problem, it only gets immediate results, not long-term
ones. So, it's my prayer that, with God's help, I can have
joy, be proactive, and have a healthy, happy home.
To
Sabbath or not to Sabbath
Thursday, October 16
Recently,
my husband and I were challenged/encouraged by a family who keeps
the Sabbath. They told us how they celebrate it on Saturdays
and what a blessing that it has been to their lives. Our
family has never really taken a complete day to rest our bodies
and minds and refocus ourselves for the Lord's work. We know
that the law of the Old Testament commanded that the Israelites
keep the Sabbath. However, Christ came to fulfill the law.
So, is it a sin to not keep the Sabbath now? I don't know.
Also, what does keeping the Sabbath look like? Jesus said
that the Sabbath was created for man, not man for the Sabbath.
God created us to need rest. After working six days, we all
need to have a day when we don't run from here to there, doing
laundry, cleaning, cooking, exercising, etc. We need a day
to regroup, resting our bodies and minds. So, because of
Andy's work, we decided that we would start out keeping the
Sabbath on Tuesday, and go from there. I won't do any
housework, the TV and computer will be banned, and I'll prepare
whatever food we'll eat the day before. We'll take that time
to read, talk, sleep, and pray. I'm actually really excited
for this next Tuesday to role around. I'll let you know how it
goes.
A little about me
Tuesday, October 14
I used to be a bitter, selfish, negative woman. Boy did God
have his work cut out for Him when he decided to save me. I didn't
change overnight. No, it has been more like a slow cleansing of my
character, kind of like the crock pot version instead of the
grill. My most recent adventure has been learning how to be a
godly wife. By this I mean learning what my rightful place is in
the home (not what society says is right), and serving my husband
with a joyful heart. About a year ago, I had been praying that God
would reveal His purpose for my life. I didn't feel content just
being a wife and mother. There had to be more, right? Well, he
answered my prayer, and am I ever thankful. He lead me to a book
called "Created to be His Help Meet" by Debi Pearl.
I went through this book with a few other women and over time, my
eyes were opened. Being a wife and a mother is my purpose. God
created me to be a suitable helper to my husband. And if I walk in
that role with grace, and joy, and contentment, then my life will
be a blessing to not only my family, but to God Almighty. I
recommend this book to any woman who is married or will be
married. It will shed some light on the subject of a woman's role,
which has been muddied by feminists for so many years. I don't want
to live my life like a man, I'm more interested in having a
heavenly marriage and obedient, respectful children. I know that
my views on different topics will be different from the norm, but
hey, has the norm been working for you lately? |
A
little about me
Tuesday, October 14, 2008
To
Sabbath...
Thursday, October 16, 2008
Been
awhile...
Tuesday, December 9, 2008
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